This is a Sample Worksheet that I ask the Dads to look over, consider and answer.
One of my goals as a doula is to assist a couple in such a way that both parents have a satisfying labor and birth experience. The presence and support of a Husband is priceless and I am committed to remaining aware to promoting the value of a husband's support during labor. In order for me to do so, I believe that open dialogue about the Father's expectations of his role and my role at the labor and birth are important. Therefore, I am hoping this worksheet to be beneficial and encouraging.
In order for my service to the couple to be most effective and productive, I think it is
important to discuss the following questions prior to the onset of labor. In this way there is no confusion and the father can have the opportunities to maximize his efforts to his beautiful laboring wife!
Questions for the Father:
How much and to what extent would like to be involved in the birth:
How do you envision the doula and the father working as a team to best care for the mother?:
How do you see yourself supporting your wife:
How can be of support to you too?:
Below is a Chart that I ask the Dad to circle or comments one one the place that best describes he sees himself and the doula fit into the support team.
Scenario #1
Husband - Primary Support
Takes an active role in supporting the mother. Assists with relaxation, breathing, massage, emotional support,
positions, etc.
Doula - Assistant
Supports the partner, fills in where needed and offers a break when partner needs one. Doula can make suggestions but father takes lead role in carrying out the comfort measures.
Scenario #2
Husband - Teammate
Partner works with doula as a teammate with the goal of helping the mother feel supported, comforted, and productive. Trades off with different roles in labor positions and comfort measures.
Doula - Teammate
Doula serves as teammate with Partner to help Mother achieve labor and birth plan, trade off with roles in labor positions and comfort measures. Communicates with partner on ways to help Mother and works together.
Scenario #3
Husband - Productive Witness
Father is a companion to the mother; holds her and comforts her, but leaves the active support role to others. Wants freedom to share the experience with Mother.
Doula - Primary Support
Takes active role with the Mother, suggesting and implementing agreed and useful comfort measures and positioning.
